Modern sexuality

Modern sexuality

Despite the fact that we live in a modern society we are still uncomfortable with our sexuality. One would say that we have finally reached a point where we would feel as comfortable talking about sex and experimenting with sex toys as we are talking about food; sharing sexual information as freely as we share recipes. But this is not the case.

We are uncomfortable talking to our friends about sex; we are uncomfortable asking for help with our sexuality, and we certainly would not take lessons in how to increase our sex enjoyment. We will take cooking classes, dancing and tennis lessons, and any number of other lessons to enhance our abilities. However when it comes to sex we assume that we need no assistance. Furthermore, if we want to increase our sexual pleasure and buy some sex toy we are loath to talk about that.

Actually we believe that we know everything there is to know about sex. For majority of us sexuality is what we learned when we were youngsters. We seldom take time to update that information. As adults we behave on the basis of youth notions of sexuality. Ignorance is one of prevalent obstacles to effective sexual functioning.

Therefore everyone should know some principles for good sex:

-  Respect your partner - treat your partner in a way you want to be treated.

-  Adopt a healthy attitude - use contraceptives to protect you from sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy.

-  Share your thoughts and feelings with your partner - intimacy is above all trust. Be as frank with your partner as possible.

-  Talk about your likes and dislikes - never keep silence if you don't like something or if something distresses you to say nothing of pain. The latter may cause some serious disease or sexual dysfunction.

-  Be honest - honesty is the best policy. Do not try to imitate orgasm in order to "please" your partner.

-  Experiment - modern technologies have given us immense number of sex toys, which will considerably vary your intimacy.

-  Have fun and relax - play with each other, invent something, use various sex devices, imagine and improvise.

-  Practice - Rome was not built in a day. To achieve really good results one should persistently practice.

And finally remember the following: "Most sex goes on between your ears, not between your legs. Good sex starts with a healthy attitude about sex."